In addition to yoga, working out, writing and cooking, I also love movies. A good movie with some great character development (and popcorn) and I’m happy as a clam. My latest movie night featured one of my all-time favorites, “American Gangster,” with Denzel Washington and Russell Crowe. It is packed with thought-provoking quotes — but the one that stuck out the most was: “Quitting when you are ahead is not the same as quitting.”
As a perfectionist who has lived off of the mentality of never quitting, I have found myself hitting the same wall in life, time and again. I give all I have to a job, or to another person, and before I know it, I have nothing left to give. I have given 100% of myself. While going all-in to something or someone can be a beautiful gift, what you must understand is that just because you are what someone or something else needs, it doesn’t mean they can return your energy. As the Chinese general told Frank Lucas in “American Gangster”:“Everything has its season, and everything has its ending.”
Your gift of hard work — or always wanting more or better — can become your demise if you don’t learn when to let go. After a lot of thought, I put together a few tips for preserving your precious energy while still being the best you can be.
1. PURPOSE IS HAPPINESS
不断检查你的幸福脉搏。当我们有目的或方向时，快乐往往很容易出现。没有目的，我们就像在不可预测的风中的怜悯中滚动。当你知道它没有用你的目的保持一致或与你开心的原因保持一致，让事情变得更加简单。当然，生活并不总是黑色和白色，我们往往没有意识到某些东西，或者在一段时间过去之前没有让我们开心。
照顾好自己不是自私
我最奋斗的东西是接受的，说不总是自私。如果我没有任何内容或积极的左来给出局面，我就不会坚持并成为一个负担。你能进入关系的最糟糕的事情之一就是纷争。当我们为自己提供另一个时，纷争建立。如果你在另一个人身上迷失自己，或者在你的职业生涯中，你说人或工作比你内心的和平更重要。无论是长时间散步，祈祷，阅读或冥想，都会找到一个你喜欢的东西，可以为你的电池充电。不要总是让自己在空洞中跑，希望有人或某事将重新填充你。只有你可以重新填充你。
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3. QUITTING WHEN YOU ARE AHEAD IS NOT THE SAME AS QUITTING
我希望我能为这句话信任，因为它是如此强大！我们为这篇文章的灵感来了。万博彩票下载苹果It’s like the guy at the blackjack table who doesn’t leave with his mountain of chips because his greed pushes him to play, ‘just one more hand.’ Though I have never gambled, I am the queen of the, ‘just one more hand,’ excuse. True strength comes when we know we have the ability to do more, say more or be more of something but we choose not to. We choose not to, not because we are settling or because we are quitters, but because we know true peace is found in moderation.
On the threshold of not knowing when to let go is where angst and anxiety are found. It’s in ‘just one more mile’ when we sprain our ankle. It’s in ‘just one more hour at work’ when we miss one of our kid’s games. And it’s in ‘just one more time’ when our heart finally breaks.
Always remember this: You are worth it. You deserve true and incomparable happiness. You alone, stripped of all relationships, accolades, titles and careers, are worth it. Let go while you are ahead, trust the process and let the peace of moderation warm you like the sun hitting your skin.
