Have you ever said: “I need a vacation from my vacation?” I hear this statement a lot from clients, colleagues and friends. Why do we over-plan, over-schedule, and overdo our vacations?
这是两个共同的原因：我们担心错过，并且我们习惯了在正常生活中过度运作，因此我们在假期中采取了同样的能量。结果，我们创建了冗长的行程，安排许多位置以查看，并尝试参观太多的人。但是我们经常需要的是少，而不是更多。
一学习发现女性参与者度过了轻松的假期后更快乐，更有生产力。其他学习revealed that if the vacation is relaxing, participants’ happiness levels will last two weeks after the trip is over before returning to back to their baseline level of happiness. If you want to boost health, happiness and productivity, take a relaxing vacation. The following tips will show you how.
1.去神经系统可以放松的地方。换句话说，当您想到一个在心中创造平静与和平的地方时，您会去哪里？是海滩还是国家公园？这可能不是与您的婆婆的游乐园，对吗？在您和您的孩子（如果您带他们在一起）可以享受的地方之间找到平衡。如果您要带孩子，那么必须确保整个家庭都有活动。这使您可以远离育儿。
2.不要过度安排。这意味着要在一个位置（几天甚至整个假期）上一段时间。只想每天做几件事，例如在游泳池旁阅读，让家庭一餐，做一些活跃的事情等。目的是尽量不要在一天之内做太多。如果您认为可能太多了，那可能就是。
3.品尝时刻。So much of our lives are spent running from one thing to the next, and this is the time to slow down. Set an intention to savor your vacation time, foster connections with your family, and do things you might not normally do (get a massage, take a nap, etc.). This is likely an experience that will never happen exactly like this again. One of my mentors, James Baraz, often says, “This is your life, don’t miss it.”
研究表明，在假期中获得愉悦和放松的经历，并品尝这些经历，对于度假后的更长时间保持快乐至关重要。
4.培养您的人际关系。当我们有非结构化的时间时，我们将有更大的机会与我们关心的人建立联系，倾听，表现出深厚的欣赏，深情和慷慨解囊。
5. Be flexible.什么都没有按计划进行。如果您注意到自己想做什么或成为某事，请查看是否可以练习宽恕和放手。您可以用开放，灵活的头脑重新考虑情况吗？
6. Take time for you.你可能与别人分享时间和空间,但是see if you can carve out some me time every day to refill your well. You can go for a walk, take a swim, read, etc. If you take this time, you will have so much more to give to your life.
7.收听您的自然节奏。该指示是要重新计时，而不是工作日时钟。这意味着当您饿时吃饭并在满满时停止，需要睡觉时入睡（是的，包括小睡），当身体准备好醒来时醒来。重新设置和您的身心将感谢您。
I have aimed to take a relaxing vacation every year for the past several years. One of my annual rituals is to attend silent meditation retreats. This is partly to increase my knowledge in meditation and Buddhist psychology so that I can share it with my students and clients, but it also helps me to slow down and tune into what is really important to me. I just returned from a week of silent meditation before writing this blog post to get ready for my new online mindfulness course,开花莲花。我决定我需要在静修之上添加一些乐趣，所以我在那里前往俄勒冈州的波特兰和阿斯托里亚。这是完美的组合。
让我知道您的放松假期如何！您有我的完全许可来放慢脚步，并且您可以看到研究也支持它。
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