Life is full of uncertainty. There are ups, downs, pauses and detours. The one thing we can count on in this life is change.
但是，作为人类，我们喜欢某种安全感，保障和常规感。我们通常不喜欢不可预测性或不确定性。这种“不知情”倾向于触发我们的爬行动物反应和战斗，飞行或冻结的交感神经系统。当我们处于这种反应状态时，做出明智和响应迅速的选择更加困难。
When it comes to creating healthy habits and being successful in life, how can we achieve success when things are always changing?
支持成功的三个特征，并得到了研究（我在工作中发现）支持的更大福祉的特征是：持久，耐心和韧性。
What do all three traits have in common? The ability to stick it out for the long haul.
In our busy, let’s-have-things-NOW society, we aren’t always willing to accept that most good things take a little effort and time. Does this sound familiar? We wanted weight loss yesterday; we want the marriage proposal now; we want the perfect job today, and the amazing house this very moment.
一句话说：“当水果成熟后，它将从树上掉下来。”
We can’t make the weight come off by forcing it; we can’t make a man or woman fall in love and commit to us; we can’t make our bosses give us promotions. What we can do is continue to apply a strong commitment of effort, patience and persistence.
就个人而言，我一遍又一遍地学到了这一课。尽管我面临的挑战是要在生活中练习更多的耐心，但我本质上是一个动摇和摇动者，喜欢在时间表上发生事情，而不一定是在人生的时间表上。
Here is how to increase resiliency. May it serve you well.
6 Ways to Practice Resiliency
1. Be Creative with the Resources at Hand
If there is something you want, but don’t really know how to achieve or tackle, don’t let a lack of expertise or experience stop you. Learn as you go instead.
2月，我第一次推出了在线课程。For me, this meant asking people questions about how to do this, fully committing to my vision in my words and actions, finding mentors and wisdom seekers who were willing to share knowledge, getting a technician wiz to be on my team since that isn’t my skill set, and then hoping that everything would go great. And guess what? It did.
2. Use Criticism as a Way to Make Yourself (and Your Work) Better
As I have shared often in this community, compassion, not criticism, is a better motivator for change. If the mind goes into negative thinking, turn it around to something like, “I am doing the very best that I can, or things are going to work out.” Then see what next needs your attention, and prioritize it.
3.当不好的事情发生时，不要失去注意力
Whether its a promotion you didn’t get, a client you didn’t win over, a relationship ends, or maybe your weight isn’t moving in the direction you want it to, allow yourself to feel the emotions that pertain to this upset. But then get back on track with what you do have power over: yourself and your next move.
4.从过去学习以避免重复
I have made some mistakes and sometimes I have made those mistakes many times. Sound familiar? Resilience comes when we look at the past and reflect on what worked and what didn’t work. Sometimes the greatest change and learning comes from not wanting to have the same negative outcome. If you are always doing X, why not try Y?
5. Gratitude Brings Opportunities
我经常喝瑜伽士茶，并有几次鼓舞人心的信息说：“一种感激的态度带来了机会。”我相信这个。如果我们可以将思想倾向于我们的感激之情，那么我们就进入了一个丰富的空间。这种能量通常会给我们带来积极的东西。立即开始感激日记，每天只命名3-5件事。
6. Make Friends with Fear
Often times when life feels uncertain or what we are trying to do is new, we can feel fear. First, name your fear, look it in the eye, and tell yourself that you are safe. I love drinking tea, so as a practice, I will invite my fear for tea. My fear is already here, so why not make it more comfortable with a little cup of chamomile? Once the fear has been acknowledged and passed, do something that brings you back into balance (exercise, talking to a friend, dance). Now stand in the possibility that life is organizing around your success. Yes!
I look forward to hearing how it goes.
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