Flip through any women’s magazine, and there’s a good chance you’ll get the same underlying message: No matter what we do with our brains, hearts, or spirits, if we’re not also sexually desirable, we’ve failed. Some articles would even have us believe that the act of having sex is actually a performance, done with the sole intention of impressing and titillating one’s partner. While this sometimes leads to hilariously terrible sex advice, it’s a symptom of a much larger problem: Mainstream media is teaching women to place the needs of other people (in this case, men) before their own and to look at (and judge) themselves and their bodies with a hypercritical eye.
These messages about sexuality and bodies are well-documented by blogs like Beauty Redefined, which illustrate, for example, how often even seemingly empowering statements—like the fact that a woman’s confidence is a real turn-on—are undermined by subtle phrasing that “privileges male pleasure above all else.”
Basically women are told that their self-confidence should be acquired, not because it’s good for their minds, bodies, or hearts, but because confidence is appealing to others. This reinforces the message that being desirable, pleasing others, and attracting men are a woman’s most important duties—which can affect every aspect of overall health and wellness, even which workout you choose.
If you’re surrounded by the message that your body exists to attract men (and to make other women envious) then of course you’ll be compelled to choose a workout that promises to make you the most “attractive,” regardless of whether you actually enjoy it.
We may not always be consciously aware of this messaging, but it sticks in our minds: “You need to get rid of body hair, pull the toxins from your mouth, and for Pete’s sake burn off of those love handles before someone sees how disgusting you are!” It’s no wonder that women feel worse about themselves and their bodies after browsing through women’s magazines.
所有这些消息导致了什么学习calls “self objectification,” or women internalizing the way magazines objectify us and using that perspective as their primary view of their own physical selves. This in turn leads to habitual and often hypercritical body-monitoring, a lack of awareness of what’s going on inside their bodies, and possibly contributes to a whole host ofmental health risks。
So What Does This Have to Do With Fitness?
Everything. This self-objectification means that when a woman comes to me for training, she has one million perceived external flaws that allegedly need fixing. She typically points out her “trouble spots” or explains why she can’t seem to lose those last five pounds. Her fitness goals are based not on her own objectives—say, wanting to finally try kettlebell training or working toward a faster 5K time—nor are they based necessarily on what she likes doing. Instead, they are the result of seeing herself through the eyes of media and with the goal of sculpting her body into something that will please others.
The problem is that relentless pursuit of a beach-ready butt isn’t likely to be the foundation of a lasting, fulfilling relationship with one’s body or any sustainable fitness program. For a truly fulfilling and joyful relationship with your body, the key is to focus on your internal experience, not an external one.
成为您自己的名人健康大师
调整内部体验可能真的很难做到，因为我们要注意我们向他人的出现方式，但这是学习您真正喜欢的东西的唯一方法。问问自己：什么感觉很好？什么感觉很难？我渴望什么？
您不能外包这些东西；是您必须弄清楚您的世界是什么，然后确保您得到更多。健康与健身（就像性一样！）都可以“完成”，从而增加做更多的愿望。您只需要教会自己渴望自己，就可以给自己一些值得渴望的东西！
我们中的许多人实际上并不期望“健康”会感觉良好。Our culture has the majorly misguided idea that being healthy is no fun—that it’s supposed to be hard, painful, and require tremendous discipline and willpower to cope with suffering through a workout and forcing gross-but-good-for-you vegetables down our throats. But working out, once you find something you love, feels amazing. It’s often my favorite part of my day, and I try to help my clients see it that way too. Is it challenging? Yes. But I wake up on lifting days excited to have a challenge worth pushing myself for. Feeding myself nourishing food feels incredible, too. So does prioritizing sleep and being well-hydrated. Having a body, and all the habits that go into making it healthy, can and should feel absolutely pleasurable.
因此，让我们停止在外面寻找最好的感觉，并开始对我们的内部经历进行调整。名人健康大师不知道什么样的饮食或健身计划对您有用，只有您这样做。
To get your journey started, here are a few ways to start getting to know what makes you tick. Do these now and start reaping the benefits of a pleasurable, satisfying health and fitness life.
4个步骤到您的“你”
1.写下来！保持锻炼或食物日记，并注意到您在每个新实验中的感受，都可以使您评估哪些最适合您的方法。（例如，我喜欢一个高度训练的肌肉建设程序，但是当我回头浏览笔记时，我看到很多“感到困惑”，“疲惫”，“饥饿”和“ soooo饥饿”都围绕着这些锻炼。）就像跑了3英里一样容易。讨厌每一秒钟。”或“热瑜伽。艰难，但我喜欢我的感受。”
2. Start slow and commit fully.Make only one new diet or fitness change at a time, and commit yourself to it for three full weeks, whether it’s a new supplement, a new workout program, a new diet rule, etc. If you try to implement all three at once, you’ll never know which variable was making you feel a certain way. If you quit after a week or two, you haven’t really given it a fair chance.
3.勇敢。走出舒适区，保持开放的态度，不要害怕尝试新事物。回到我们的卧室类比：每个新的性伴侣和经验都会提供不同的东西，从而导致新的拼图落入到位，即使您正在学习并没有真正点燃火，而不是什么。尝试不同的运动和饮食组合，与不同的培训伙伴一起工作，并阅读不同教练撰写的节目和文章。保留对您有用的东西，然后抛弃其余的！
4.玩得开心。旅程是奖励。爱上了尝试不同的饮食和移动方式的过程。毕竟，找到有趣，有意义和增强生活的东西应该会感到非常惊人。
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